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“Σ’ αγαπώ μη γνωρίζοντας πώς, από πού και πότε, σ’ αγαπώ στα ίσια δίχως πρόβλημα ή περηφάνια: σ’ αγαπώ έτσι γιατί δεν ξέρω μ’ άλλον τρόπο…” – Πάμπλο Νερούδα.

Τον τελευταίο καιρό μ΄απασχολεί πολύ το θέμα των σχέσεων. Βλέπω ολοένα και πιο συχνά γύρω μου τους ανθρώπους να κλείνονται ερμητικά στο μικρόκοσμό τους, τη ίδια στιγμή που λαχταρούν να εισπράξουν ενδιαφέρον και νοιάξιμο. Σαν να θέλουν να κερδίσουν την πιο όμορφη φιλική, ερωτική ή συναδελφική σχέση χωρίς όμως να χάσουν τίποτα από τη βολή τους, χωρίς να παραχωρήσουν χιλιοστό από το ζωτικό τους χώρο, χωρίς να επιτρέπουν ούτε μια ρωγμή στο προσωπείο που διάλεξαν να τους αντιπροσωπεύει στον έξω κόσμο.

Κάποτε αυτό θα με πλήγωνε, τώρα πια αρχίζω να αποδέχομαι πως οι αληθινές σχέσεις – αυτές που για χάρη τους βάζεις το χέρι σου στη φωτιά – είναι λιγοστές. Κατέγραψα εδώ ό,τι έχω προσωπικά αντιληφθεί για το θέμα των σχέσεων, προσπαθώντας να ξεκαθαρίσω τις προτεραιότητές μου και να βεβαιωθώ πως αφήνω χώρο στις σχέσεις που αξίζουν να εξελιχθούν και ν΄ανθίσουν:

1. Κάποιες σχέσεις είναι ευλογία ενώ κάποιες είναι μαθήματα ζωής. Οι άνθρωποι που περνούν από τη ζωή σου άλλοτε σε στηρίζουν, άλλοτε σε δοκιμάζουν, άλλοτε σε χρησιμοποιούν και άλλοτε σε ωθούν να βγάλεις τον καλύτερο (ή χειρότερο εαυτό σου). Ολ΄αυτά είναι πολύτιμες εμπειρίες που σε ωριμάζουν και σ’ αναγκάζουν να πάρεις θέση για το τι λογής σχέσεις θέλεις τελικά να έχεις στη ζωή σου.

2. Οταν η ζωή σού φέρνει αλλαγές – ακόμα και προς το καλύτερο – κάποιοι άνθρωποι απομακρύνονται από κοντά σου. Ισως γιατί η προηγούμενη φάση σου τούς πήγαινε περισσότερο, ίσως γιατί ο νέος τρόπος ζωής σου δεν τους ταιριάζει πια, ίσως γιατί πατιούνται κουμπιά που πονάνε…, πάντως είναι κάτι που συμβαίνει και χρειάζεται να το αποδεχτείς, όσο δυσάρεστο κι αν είναι.

3. Οταν είσαι σε δύσκολη θέση και νιώθεις την ανάγκη για υποστήριξη, ποιος παραμένει δίπλα σου; Ποιος αφιερώνει χρόνο και ενέργεια για σένα; Οι άνθρωποι αυτοί είναι οι αληθινοί σου φίλοι. Μαζί στη χαρά και στη λύπη, στα εύκολα και στα δύσκολα.

4. Οι άνθρωποι σου φέρονται με τον τρόπο που τους επιτρέπεις. Εσύ βάζεις τον πήχυ ψηλά ή χαμηλά, εσύ θέτεις τα όρια. Σίγουρα δεν μπορείς να ελέγξεις τη συμπεριφορά τους, είσαι σε θέση όμως να ελέγχεις το τι θα δεχτείς και τι όχι.

5. Ενα λάθος μπορεί να είναι τυχαίο. Τα απανωτά ψέματα και οι δόλιες συμπεριφορές δεν είναι τυχαία. Αν είσαι αποδέκτης τέτοιων συμπεριφορών συστηματικά, και με ένα “συγγνώμη” υποχωρείς και παραμένεις στη σχέση, τότε κρύβεσαι πίσω από το δάχτυλό σου και ξεγελάς τον ίδιο σου τον εαυτό.

6. Βεβαιώσου πως αναγνωρίζεις τις σχέσεις που αξίζουν πραγματικά. Μήπως έχεις γίνει ο εγωπαθής που παραπονιέται γιατί ο κόσμος δεν ασχολείται αδιάλειπτα με την ευτυχία του; Αυτό που ζητάς από τους αγαπημένους σου το προσφέρεις εσύ ο ίδιος; Καμιά φορά ο φίλος που πονάει ίσως σου πει “μην ανησυχείς, είμαι καλά”, αλλά αυτό που χρειάζεται στ’ αλήθεια είναι να τον κοιτάξεις στα μάτια και να του πεις “όχι, ξέρω πως δεν είσαι καλά. Μίλησέ μου, είμαι δίπλα σου”.

7. Οι “βαριές” κουβέντες πληγώνουν περισσότερο από τον φυσικό πόνο. Εχε το νου σου μήπως, θεωρώντας δεδομένους τους δικούς σου ανθρώπους, ξεφορτώνεις άθελά σου πάνω τους τα καταπιεσμένα συναισθήματα από σχέσεις που σε πόνεσαν και τις κουβαλάς ακόμα. Οι άλλοι, όσο κι αν μας αγαπούν, δεν είναι τα συναισθηματικά μας υποζύγια.

8. Οι πράξεις μετράνε, όχι τα λόγια. Συνήθως όσοι αγαπούν δεν το διατυμπανίζουν, αρκούνται στο να το δείχνουν με μικρές ή μεγάλες κινήσεις μέσα στην καθημερινότητα. Μην παρασύρεσαι από τα μεγάλα λόγια, άφησε τις συμπεριφορές να μιλήσουν για την αλήθεια.

9. Κανείς δεν μπορεί να σου προσφέρει την ευτυχία, ούτε να ανακαλύψει το σκοπό της ζωής για λογαριασμό σου. Μην κάνεις το λάθος να περιμένεις τους άλλους να σου ανοίξουν το δρόμο στην προσωπική σου ολοκλήρωση. Ο μόνος που μπορεί είσαι εσύ ο ίδιος.

10. Η γνήσια αγάπη σε μια σχέση ανθίζει όταν εξαλείφονται οι παντός είδους “χειρισμοί”.Οταν αποδέχεσαι τον άνθρωπο που είναι δίπλα σου γι΄αυτό που είναι κι όχι γι’ αυτό που θα μπορούσε να είναι. Οταν έχεις τη δυνατότητα να αποκαλύψεις πόσο ευάλωτος κι ανασφαλής νιώθεις. Κι όλο αυτό κερδίζεται όταν βάζουν πλάτη και οι δύο, με αφοσίωση και ακεραιότητα. Διαφορετικά απλώς δεν γίνεται να συμβεί.

Κλείνω αυτή την ανάρτηση με τη σημείωση πως δεν έχω την πρόθεση να δώσω συμβουλές σε κανένα. Γράφω μόνο τις σκέψεις μου, που ίσως να είναι και αφελείς και εκτός πραγματικότητας. Πολύ θα το ήθελα οι σχέσεις μας να έχουν όλες χάπι-εντ, μάλλον όμως αυτό δεν συμβαίνει. Ο χορός της ζωής έχει τους δικούς του ρυθμούς κι εμείς μαθαίνουμε αδιάκοπα τα βήματα που ολοένα αλλάζουν καθώς κυλάει ο καιρός…

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Όταν σκεφτόμαστε συνεχώς πράγματα από το παρελθόν μας, είτε αναπολώντας τα, είτε αναθεωρώντας τα, εγκλωβιζόμαστε σε μία παγίδα που μας κρατάει πίσω. Δεν δίνουμε αξία στο παρόν μας και έτσι δεν μπορούμε να χαρούμε τις εμπειρίες που βιώνουμε καθημερινά.

Η ζωή δεν είναι ένα ημερολόγιο γεγονότων που χρειάζεται ξεφύλλισμα από έναν παθητικό αναγνώστη, αλλά μία αρένα δραστηριοτήτων που πάντα έχει κάτι να μας τραβήξει το ενδιαφέρον. Το βέλος της ζωής δεν δείχνει ποτέ προς τα πίσω, δείχνει πάντα μπροστά.Έτσι, είναι ανώφελο κάποιος να κολλάει τη σκέψη του στο παρελθόν ή στο μέλλον σα να μην υπάρχει το “εδώ” και το “τώρα”.

Φυσικά, οι αναμνήσεις είναι εγγενές μέρος της ζωής και συχνά αναπόφευκτες. Είναι ένας τρόπος να μένουμε κοντά στα πρόσωπα που αγαπάμε και σε όσα είμαστε παθιασμένοι. Είναι το συστατικό της προσωπικής μας ταυτότητας και του χαρακτήρα μας. Είναι οι ρίζες βαθιά μέσα στον πυρήνα του εαυτού μας.

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Οι μνήμες είναι συχνά κάτι το απατηλό μιας και είναι φτιατσιδωμένες από τα γεγονότα του παρόντος και έτσι πέφτουν στη φάκα του νου. Η διαφορά ανάμεσα στις ψεύτικες και τις γνήσιες αναμνήσεις μοιάζει με τον τρόπο που ξεχωρίζουν τα φο-μπιζού από τα πραγματικά κοσμήματα, τα φο-μπιζού μοιάζουν αληθινά επειδή αστράφτουν πιο έντονα.

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Ο Άλμπερτ Αϊνστάιν σε μία συνέντευξή του στο παρελθόν είχε ερωτηθεί τι κάνει όταν του έρχεται μία νέα ιδέα. Αν για παράδειγμα την καταγράφει σε ένα χαρτί ή σε κάποιο συγκεκριμένο σημειωματάριο. Απάντησε αποφασιστικά πως «Όταν έχω μια νέα καταπληκτική ιδέα, δεν τη ξεχνώ εύκολα». Και αυτή είναι η αλήθεια. Όταν κάτι μας συγκινεί σχεδόν αδύνατο να το ξεχάσουμε.

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“Πρέπει να ζουμε στο παρόν, να αναβαθμίζουμε τον εαυτό μας σε κάθε ευκαιρία που παρουσιάζεται μπροστά μας, να κερδίζουμε την αιωνιότητα κάθε στιγμή. Μόνο οι ανόητοι κάθονται στο νησί που κρύβει το θησαυρό κοιτώντας από μακριά άλλες παραλίες. Όπως δεν υπάρχουν άλλα νησιά για μας, έτσι υπάρχει μόνο μία ζωή που καλούμαστε να ζήσουμε.”

Η ανάμνηση μοιάζει με άρωμα που κρατά για πολύ

Οι απολαύσεις είναι λουλούδια που ανθίζουν όταν ζούμε τη ζωή μας, την παίρνουμε στα χέρια μας και τη γευόμαστε. Οι ευχάριστες αναμνήσεις είναι εκείνες που συνέβησαν τις στιγμές που έπρεπε και που δεν ξεχείλωσαν πέρα από τα όριά τους μη αφήνοντας να γευτούμε καινούργιες στιγμές.

Δεν θυμόμαστε γεγονότα στην ολότητά τους παρά μόνο συγκεκριμένες στιγμές, γι’ αυτό λοιπόν θα πρέπει να έχουμε βιώματα και εμπειρίες ξανά και ξανά. Ο πλούτος της ζωής βρίσκεται στις αναμνήσεις που συνεχίζουμε να κάνουμε και επιλέγουμε να κρατάμε. Μερικές φορές είναι δύσκολο να τολμήσουμε νέες εμπειρίες, ειδικά αν είμαστε κολλημένοι και περιχαρακωμένοι στη ζώνη άνεσης μας. Ωστόσο, αν θέλουμε να έχουμε ευχάριστες αναμνήσεις θα πρέπει να ζούμε μία έντονη ζωή.

Μολονότι, έχουμε ένα απτό και ικανό φυσικό σώμα και με τις αισθήσεις μας μπορούμε να έρθουμε σε επαφή με το εξωτερικό κόσμο και να τον καθορίσουμε όπως θέλουμε, εγκλωβιζόμαστε σε όσα μας λέει το μυαλό μας και η εσωτερική μας φωνή. Παρ’ όλο αυτό, θα πρέπει να πάρουμε μια απόφαση. Είτε Θα περάσουμε τη ζωή μας αναμασώντας όσα μας συνέβησαν στο παρελθόν και ενθυμούμενοι τις άσχημες εμπειρίες που είχαμε, είτε θα πάρουμε τον έλεγχο της ζωής μας, θα ζήσουμε νέες εμπειρίες και φυσικά θα ελέγξουμε τα συναισθήματά μας. Μόνο αν τολμήσουμε κάτι τέτοιο, θα μπορέσουμε να απολαύσουμε την ύπαρξή μας.

Το κλειδί για να βιώνουμε περισσότερο είναι να σκεφτόμαστε και να αναπολούμε το παρελθόν λιγότερο και να περιορίζουμε τις προσδοκίες που περιμένουμε να υλοποιηθούν στο μέλλον. Να αποδεχτούμε αυτά που έχουμε στο εδώ και στο τώρα και τίποτα περισσότερο. Να ζούμε τις στιγμές μας εμποδίζοντας τους εαυτούς μας να αποπροσανατολιστούν από τις παγίδες που βάζει το μυαλό.

Εν τέλει, ο προορισμός μας είναι να ζήσουμε, όμως καταλήγουμε να ζούμε ελάχιστα. Είναι η ώρα να αντιστρέψουμε αυτόν τον κανόνα. Η ευτυχία δεν βρίσκεται σε άλλο τόπο και χρόνο, αλλά στο παρόν στο εδώ και στο τώρα. θυμάστε πάντα.

Πηγές: share24.gr / Spirit Alive 
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Τάσος Λειβαδίτης: «Μάθε να αγαπάς αυτούς που δεν πληγώνουν την αγάπη»

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Έμαθες να έλκεσαι από τα δύσκολα. Έμαθες να έλκεσαι από ανθρώπους που σε πλήγωναν εύκολα, που δεν δίσταζαν να σου πουν όχι, που δεν σε φρόντιζαν όσο θα ήθελες. Έμαθες να έλκεσαι από ανθρώπους που ενώ γνώριζες ότι δεν είσαι ευτυχισμένος, ευτυχισμένη, παρέμενες και το ονόμαζες σχέση.

Παλιά έλεγες ότι αξίζεις περισσότερα, σταδιακά όμως σταμάτησες να το λες. Τον ξέχασες τον εαυτό σου. Δικαιολογούσες όλες τις συμπεριφορές των άλλων. Έμαθες να εφευρίσκεις δικαιολογίες για όλες τις συμπεριφορές, για όλα τα λόγια, για αυτά που σε πλήγωναν. Έμαθες να λες ότι γίνεσαι πιο δυνατός, πιο δυνατή έτσι.

Έμαθες να προσπαθείς να σώσεις, ακόμα και αυτά που δεν σώζονται. Προσπαθούσες για χρόνια να πείσεις τον εαυτό σου ότι έτσι είναι οι σχέσεις. Δύσκολες, πρέπει πάντα να καταλαβαίνεις τον άλλον, απαιτούν μόνιμα συμβιβασμούς και μόνιμα έπρεπε να προσφέρεις εσύ.

Να σου πω όμως κάτι; Δεν είναι έτσι οι σχέσεις. Έμαθες να αγαπάς όσους πληγώνουν την αγάπη, όσους πλήγωναν εσένα. Ονόμαζες το λίγο πολύ και πάντα δικαιολογούσες. Πάντα έλεγες ότι καταλαβαίνεις τους άλλους και ότι στην αγάπη πρέπει πάντα να ακούμε. Να σου πω όμως κάτι;

Δεν είναι αυτό αγάπη. Στην αγάπη προσφέρουν και οι δύο, νιώθουν και οι δύο, ακούνε και οι δύο, φροντίζουν και θαυμάζουν και οι δύο, ρωτάνε και οι δύο, ενδιαφέρονται και οι δύο, είναι παρόντες και οι δύο, επιδιώκουν και οι δύο, προσφέρουν και οι δύο, θέλουν τη σχέση έμπρακτα και οι δύο.

Δεν πληγώνουν. Δεν μειώνουν. Δεν παραμελούν. Δεν αγνοούν. Δείχνουν, με λίγα ή με πολλά, δεν έχει σημασία. Σέβονται. Και είναι τόσο όμορφο να σε σέβονται, να σε θαυμάζουν, να σου λένε πόσο όμορφος είσαι ή πόσο όμορφο είναι αυτό που έφτιαξες.

Σταμάτησε να δικαιολογείς και να αρκείσαι στα λίγα. Φρόντισε τον εαυτό σου και αγάπησέ τον μέσα από τις επιλογές σου. Μην περιμένεις μία γιορτή για να σου δείξει ο άλλος αν σε αγαπάει. Αγάπη σημαίνει να σου δείχνω καθημερινά ότι αξίζω εγώ να είμαι δίπλα σου.

Ελένη Σολταρίδου – enallaktikidrasi.com

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Δε κλαίω γιατί είμαι αδύναμος! Κλαίω γιατί είμαι ζωντανός!

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Ναι κλαίω. Κλαίω γιατί δεν είναι «ντροπή», επειδή δεν «εκτίθεμαι» όταν το κάνω όπως εσύ υποστηρίζεις. Κλαίω γιατί τα χω καλά με τον εαυτό μου κι έχω μάθει να μην τον καταπιέζω μόνο και μόνο για να μπορώ να εντάσσομαι στην κάθε κοινωνική νόρμα που θέλει τους «δυνατούς» αναίσθητους.

Κλαίω γιατί δεν είμαι αναίσθητος και επιλέγω να μην μηδενίζω τον ανθρώπινο συναισθηματισμό και την πηγαία δύναμη ξεσπάσματος που έχω μέσα μου και που όσο κι αν εσένα σου φαίνεται περίεργο, θέλει πολλά κουράγια να καταφέρεις να βγάλεις προς τα έξω.

Γιατί όταν αυτή η δύναμη απελευθερώνεται μένει εκεί για να σε ξυπνήσει, να σε κινητοποιήσει και να κατευθύνει την συνείδησή σου εκεί που έχεις ξεχάσει πώς να πάς.

Εκεί που είσαι άνθρωπος και εκφράζεσαι με ειλικρίνεια και θάρρος, όχι απέναντι στους άλλους αλλά απέναντι στον ίδιο σου τον εαυτό.

Εκεί που κοιτάς κατάματα την ψυχή σου και της ζητάς παραπονεμένα το λόγο που σ’ αφήνει να ζεις όπως σου λένε οι άλλοι. Εκεί που ο πόνος, η συγκίνηση, η αγανάκτηση , η χαρά είναι και πάλι μέρος του εαυτού σου κι όχι απαγορευμένες, ξεχασμένες καταστάσεις του είναι σου.

Και ναι έφτασα εκεί. Και ήταν δύσκολο να αντιμετωπίσω τον εαυτό μου, μάλλον, ήταν δύσκολο να τον βρω γιατί συνεχώς τον έχανα ψάχνοντάς τον πίσω από καλώς δημιουργημένα, κοινωνικώς αποδεκτά προσωπεία.

Κι όταν τον βρήκα επιτέλους φοβήθηκα, κι άρχισα να τρέχω με πανικό για να μην συνειδητοποιήσω άλλα. Και μακριά από αυτόν έτρεχα κι από όλους τους άλλους, που μου έδιναν ρηχά διδάγματα επιβίωσης και επέμεναν πως είμαι αδύναμος και πως πρέπει να «σκληρύνω» και να κρύψω τον εαυτό μου για να επιβιώσω.

Στο τέλος όμως σταμάτησα. Γιατί ήταν μάταιο και γιατί κουράστηκα. Σταμάτησα αποφασιστικά, γύρισα προς τα πίσω, είδα τον εαυτό μου, του χαμογέλασα, τον πήρα αγκαλιά και μαζί πήραμε τον δρόμο του γυρισμού. Και μαζί ήμασταν πιο δυνατοί απέναντι στους άλλους. Και δυσκολευτήκαμε και συναντήσαμε εμπόδια αλλά δεν είχε πλέον σημασία γιατί είμαι πλέον ζωντανός! Κι όταν αισθάνομαι το κάνω με όλη την έννοια της λέξης!

Κι αν θέλω να κλάψω θα το κάνω, ακόμη κι αν είναι με μια μικρή λεπτομέρεια που με συγκίνησε και βελτίωσε ολιγόλεπτα την βαρετή καθημερινότητα που έχετε δημιουργήσει, και που ευτυχώς πλέον βιώνω ως απλός παρατηρητής. Και ευτυχώς δεν είμαι μόνος μου. Υπάρχουν κι άλλοι σαν κι εμένα και θα υπάρξουν ακόμη περισσότεροι.

Θα κλάψω γιατί είμαι ζωντανός και αν ο λόγος δεν σας αρκεί και θέλετε κάτι πιο «λογικό», θα κλάψω για σας και τον χαμένο σας συναισθηματισμό. Όχι για να σας θρηνήσω αλλά για να σας κάνω να θυμηθείτε τι θα πει «είμαι ζωντανός».

Σας χαιρετώ,

Ένας ζωντανός άνθρωπος

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